How trauma, stress, and nervous system dysregulation can cloud spiritual clarity in relationships After a conversation with a dear friend, I found myself wondering about the answer to a question: "Does living in survival also impact one's ability to discern whether or not a potential spouse is sent from God?" You can love God deeply. You can pray consistently. You can hear Him clearly in many areas of your life. …and still struggle to discern whether a man is truly from God. That doesn’t make...

How a well-meaning mindset becomes a cage — and how to tell the difference between problems worth working through and harm worth leaving. It is one of the most commonly offered pieces of marital wisdom, spoken with the calm authority of lived experience: "Every marriage has problems. No relationship is perfect." In many contexts, this is genuinely true and genuinely helpful. It guards against the fantasy that love should be effortless. It encourages couples to work through conflict rather...

There's a phrase that gets hurled at single women, especially those who've had relationships end: "She can't keep a man." It's wielded like a weapon, designed to shame, to make women question themselves, to suggest some fundamental inadequacy. But let me tell you what I've learned: this phrase says far more about outdated expectations than it does about the women it targets. The Women They're Actually Describing When people say a woman "can't keep a man," they're often talking about women...