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As an extension of Exalted Valley Ministries, this blog serves to bear fruit for the vision to see every woman walk in her unique calling, unhindered by toxic relationships. It also serves to advance the mission, inspired by Isaiah 40:3-5, to equip each woman to Know, Grow, and Go. When we know the truth about God, ourselves, and life, the crooked places are made straight. When we grow in that healing and liberating truth by applying it to our lives, the rough places are made

If you are hurting because your narcissistic ex "moved on", remember this: they don't seek connection, they seek consumption. Their sense of entitlement, need for admiration, difficulty empathizing, and pattern of taking advantage of others are reflected in their objectification of people. They only see people as tools, toys, or obstacles. The same person can shift between all three inside of a manipulationship. People are tools - They value what you provide: attention, money

A primary reason I stayed so long in a destructive marriage was because I incorrectly understood that enduring the "...or worse" was my cross to bear. We all need to be reminded that the cross is a symbol of liberation, not oppression. Jesus endured the cross so we could walk in freedom and strength to accomplish the good, God-ordained work so marvelously begun in us. As long as there are "pastors" (like the one here) who espouse ungodly suffering as acceptable and even deem

We've heard people say, "I don't look like what I've been through!" - and that's indeed a blessing. But it's also okay to look like what you've been through. Rescues aren't cute. It is a blessing to survive the hell on earth called Intimate Partner Violence and still know that God is still God and faithful to His promises. Here are 10 Bible verses to encourage you on your healing and recovery journey. "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3 "You in

“Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit — honor it.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 We do just that when we care for our bodies with intention. Caring for our bodies helps us to put a halt to the harmful effects of destructive relationships. Here are a few more of my favorite products for renewing and sustaining the body so we are best equipped to carry out our unique assignments for God's glory! Magnesium Citrate for Sleep Highly absorbable form of magnesium that does wonders

Did you know your body has natural stress cycles? One of the healthiest ways to complete those cycles is through movement. When you experience stress, your body releases hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline to help you respond to danger. Walking, stretching, rebounding, or even gently shaking your arms and legs can help your body process those stress hormones and send clear sensory signals to your brain that the immediate threat has passed. Movement helps shift you from a

How trauma, stress, and nervous system dysregulation can cloud spiritual clarity in relationships After a conversation with a dear friend, I found myself wondering about the answer to a question: "Does living in survival also impact one's ability to discern whether or not a potential spouse is sent from God?" You can love God deeply. You can pray consistently. You can hear Him clearly in many areas of your life. …and still struggle to discern whether a man is truly from God.

How a well-meaning mindset becomes a cage — and how to tell the difference between problems worth working through and harm worth leaving. It is one of the most commonly offered pieces of marital wisdom, spoken with the calm authority of lived experience: "Every marriage has problems. No relationship is perfect." In many contexts, this is genuinely true and genuinely helpful. It guards against the fantasy that love should be effortless. It encourages couples to work through c

There's a phrase that gets hurled at single women, especially those who've had relationships end: "She can't keep a man." It's wielded like a weapon, designed to shame, to make women question themselves, to suggest some fundamental inadequacy. But let me tell you what I've learned: this phrase says far more about outdated and unhealthy expectations than it does about the women it targets. The Women They're Actually Describing When people say a woman "can't keep a man," they'r

A Word for Survivors If you're healing from toxic relationships, this is for you. I know the pain you carry. The way trauma from toxic relationships—whether from childhood, past partnerships, or present struggles—becomes like a constant ache demanding your attention. Like stubbing your toe and being unable to think of anything else, betrayal trauma and Complex PTSD have a way of consuming our focus , stealing our energy, and clouding our ability to hear God's voice. That pain

As we begin this new year, we do so with wisdom gained, faith refined, and hearts anchored in God’s truth. This is not the year you merely survive—this is the year you thrive. Some of us are carrying the weight of past relationships that drained our joy, silenced our voices, or distracted us from our God-given purpose. But hear this clearly: what tried to break you did not cancel your calling. God has been using every lesson, every tear, and every boundary you learned to prep

Domestic Violence is not just a private problem; it's a community problem. It is a civil rights issue as well as a human rights issue. It is a public health issue. It is a societal failure requiring public intervention, not just private resolution. Consider that children who witness or are victims of abuse including emotional, physical, and sexual abuse tend to experience greater worry, frustration, aggression, learning difficulties, anxiety, depression, and suicidal thought

It can be difficult to get to a place where you can love and pray for the enemy called abuser. Perhaps it can be helpful to remember that love does not mean to enable . Removing the target of abuse is not only loving to yourself, but also to the abuser, because helping someone continue on a path of destruction is not loving. We can pray they leave the path of destruction. It can also be helpful to remember that as horrific as this person has been or is, it's not who God creat

Separation and divorce are hard, to say the least. Sometimes, based on certain circumstances, a pivot is required in order to provide better financially for yourself and your children. Recently a client shared that she would need to do just this. She is considering changing from one career to another in order to earn a higher income. As I thought about and prayed for her today, I recalled a few areas of opportunity about which I recently learned. Perhaps they may be helpful t

I am excited to be invited to join this beautiful group of ladies to speak on the theme: "Swords Drawn: Fighting for Family and Faith". I...