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As an extension of Exalted Valley Ministries, this blog serves to bear fruit for the vision to see every woman walk in her unique...

There's a phrase that gets hurled at single women, especially those who've had relationships end: "She can't keep a man." It's wielded like a weapon, designed to shame, to make women question themselves, to suggest some fundamental inadequacy. But let me tell you what I've learned: this phrase says far more about outdated expectations than it does about the women it targets. The Women They're Actually Describing When people say a woman "can't keep a man," they're often talkin

A Word for Survivors If you're healing from toxic relationships, this is for you. I know the pain you carry. The way trauma from toxic relationships—whether from childhood, past partnerships, or present struggles—becomes like a constant ache demanding your attention. Like stubbing your toe and being unable to think of anything else, betrayal trauma and Complex PTSD have a way of consuming our focus , stealing our energy, and clouding our ability to hear God's voice. That pain

As we begin this new year, we do so with wisdom gained, faith refined, and hearts anchored in God’s truth. This is not the year you merely survive—this is the year you thrive. Some of us are carrying the weight of past relationships that drained our joy, silenced our voices, or distracted us from our God-given purpose. But hear this clearly: what tried to break you did not cancel your calling. God has been using every lesson, every tear, and every boundary you learned to prep

Domestic Violence is not just a private problem; it's a community problem. It is a civil rights issue as well as a human rights issue. It is a public health issue. It is a societal failure requiring public intervention, not just private resolution.  Consider that children who witness or are victims of abuse including emotional, physical, and sexual abuse tend to experience greater worry, frustration, aggression, learning difficulties, anxiety, depression, and suicidal thought

It can be difficult to get to a place where you can love and pray for the enemy called abuser. Perhaps it can be helpful to remember that love does not mean to enable . Removing the target of abuse is not only loving to yourself, but also to the abuser, because helping someone continue on a path of destruction is not loving. We can pray they leave the path of destruction. It can also be helpful to remember that as horrific as this person has been or is, it's not who God creat

Separation and divorce are hard, to say the least. Sometimes, based on certain circumstances, a pivot is required in order to provide...

I am excited to be invited to join this beautiful group of ladies to speak on the theme: "Swords Drawn: Fighting for Family and Faith". I...

I shared the post that follows on another platform recently and I want to share it here, as well. I pray that it is an encouraging...

In this quest to be free of the bondage of toxic, traumatic relationships, the Lord has provided many avenues for healing. One avenue is...

You should have used your voice. Have you ever heard that comment in response to your toxic marriage ending? It can be frustrating to...

It could be worse. That's a statement victims of abuse sometimes say to themselves and it is also what well-meaning individuals sometimes...

Have you heard people ask individuals who have experienced divorce to consider the part they played in the demise of their marriage? If...

When mediation (which is a thoroughly unproductive circus with a narcissist) inevitably failed, and my attorney told me we needed to...

As we say hello to a new year, I just want to remind you that you are enough. Right now. In this moment. You are enough. Yesterday you...